I believe ceremony works best when it’s written by someone who understands weight — and knows when not to add any.
I come to this work through language, performance, and proximity to real life. I’ve spent years in rooms where attention matters: moments of celebration, loss, conflict, and resolution. I know how quickly tone can tip — and how carefully it needs to be held.
I’m not interested in spectacle for its own sake. I’m interested in clarity, pacing, and words that still feel right after the moment has passed.
I listen first.
Before anything is written, I pay attention to what matters to the people involved — and what doesn’t. I notice where humor belongs and where it doesn’t. I notice what needs naming, and what should be left alone.
I write each ceremony from scratch.
No templates. No filler. No borrowed language.
My role is not to dominate the room or disappear into it. It’s to stand at the center of a moment and keep it steady.
People often treat weddings and funerals as opposites. I don’t.
Both are thresholds. Both involve family, history, expectation, and emotion that rarely fits cleanly into a script. Both deserve language that’s honest without being indulgent.
I’ve lived close to joy and close to loss. I don’t rush either. I don’t sanitize grief, and I don’t inflate celebration. I believe comfort comes from recognition — not distraction.
Precision over performance
Care over efficiency
Presence over polish
Words that sound like a human wrote them
I don’t aim to please everyone in the room. I aim to do the work correctly.
I officiate ceremonies in:
New York City
New York State
New Jersey
Palm Springs & Southern California
I take on a limited number of ceremonies each month to ensure each one receives full attention.
I’m not the right person for every ceremony — and I don’t try to be.
If you’re looking for something quick, generic, or interchangeable, there are many capable officiants who do that work well.
If you’re looking for someone who takes responsibility for language, tone, and presence — I may be a good fit.