Process & Availability

Ceremony is not improvised — it’s prepared for.

I keep my process intentionally simple, structured, and humane. You will always know what comes next, what’s expected of you, and what I’m responsible for holding.

I take on a limited number of ceremonies so each one receives the attention it deserves.

The Process

1. Inquiry

You begin by reaching out with a brief description of the moment you’re marking — a wedding, memorial, or other rite of passage.

This is not a booking form.
It’s a signal of intent.

If the timing, tone, and scope feel aligned, I’ll invite you into a conversation.

2. Conversation

We speak directly — usually by video or phone.

This is not a sales call.
It’s a mutual assessment.

We talk about:

• what matters
  
  

• what you want to avoid
  
  

• who will be in the room
  
  

• the emotional weight of the moment
  
  

If it feels right, we move forward. If not, I’ll say so honestly.

3. Writing & Collaboration

Every ceremony is written from scratch.

Depending on the type of ceremony, this may include:

• personal history
  
  

• family or chosen-family dynamics
  
  

• tone calibration (light, serious, restrained, celebratory)
  
  

• optional readings or ritual elements
  
  

You’ll review the work with enough time to respond — not under pressure, not at the last minute.

4. The Ceremony

On the day itself, my role is simple:
to hold the room steady while the moment happens.

I guide the pacing, manage transitions, and ensure the ceremony feels grounded — not rushed, not overwritten, and not awkwardly staged.

I am present, calm, and prepared.

5. After

For weddings, I handle or guide legal filing as appropriate.
For funerals and memorials, I ensure the moment closes with intention — not confusion.

The work doesn’t end the second the room exhales.

Availability

I officiate a limited number of ceremonies per month.

This is deliberate.

I work in:

• New York City
  
  

• New York State
  
  

• New Jersey
  
  

• Palm Springs & Southern California (coming soon)
  
  

Select destination ceremonies are considered by request.

I do not accept last-minute bookings unless the situation genuinely requires it.

A Note on Fit

I am not the right officiant for everyone.

I may not be the right fit if:

• you want something fast and templated
  
  

• you need to be reassured constantly
  
  

• you want a performance instead of a ceremony
  
  

• you’re looking for someone to disappear into the background entirely
  
  

I may be a good fit if:

• you care about language
  
  

• you want clarity without hand-holding
  
  

• you need someone steady, not showy
  
  

• you want the moment treated as consequential
  
  

Next Steps

If this process feels right, you’re welcome to inquire.

I respond personally and intentionally.
Not every inquiry becomes a booking — and that’s by design.

Begin the conversation →